Now that you are facing treatment for cancer, you may have concerns that you want to share. If you do want to talk, you may not know how to start. These ideas may help.
Maybe you sense that the people in your life want to know more about what’s going on with you. Or maybe you feel that sharing your situation with others will help you to work through your own feelings. Here are some tips that will help prepare you to talk.
People will be more willing to help if they are aware of what you are going through. Talk openly and honestly about your condition, its treatment, and how you are feeling. And if people offer, talk about how they can help you.
People may be afraid to say or do something wrong. Assure them that showing they care is helpful. And let them know that there may be no perfect thing to say.
People will respond in different ways. Some may seem angry. Others may refuse to hear any more. Still others may seem too upbeat. Understand that each of them means well. People often don’t know what to say to someone with a serious illness.
Let them know if you do not want to be pressured to talk.
Let them know if you feel angry about the situation and not to take it personally. When you feel angry let them know that it helps when they listen.
Let them know that encouragement like “Don’t worry. Everything will be fine” can feel like empty statements. If they don't know what to say, tell them it's OK to say just that.
Find your voice to let family and friends know when you need help, such as rides to appointments, or help doing housework and errands.
It is your right to decide if and when you will talk openly about your cancer and its treatment:
Think of yourself. Take some time to absorb what you know before discussing it with others.
Other people may want to talk before you are ready, especially people who are close to you. Let them know if you do not want to talk yet.
Some families encourage being open, and others do not. You may want to find people on the outside who you’re at ease talking with.
Talking to a person who is not as close to you, such as a counselor, may be more helpful right now.
Don’t withdraw from friends and family if you are finding it hard to talk. Keep in mind that regardless of how much you decide to share with them, they can be a great source of comfort.
© 2000-2017 The StayWell Company, LLC. 780 Township Line Road, Yardley, PA 19067. All rights reserved. This information is not intended as a substitute for professional medical care. Always follow your healthcare professional's instructions.