Holidays can be particularly difficult after a loved one has died. Remember, you have the right to choose how you want to participate in the festivities this year. There are no rules! There are five important tips you should remember while preparing for the holidays after a loss.
1. You have the right to make your own decisions. You do not have to do anything you are not comfortable with. Traditions may change, and that’s ok. You can also change your mind at anytime. You may think you’re ok with something, but you won’t know until you try. If it is painful, you do not have to do it.
2. You have the right to celebrate the holiday or not. If you think it will be too painful without your loved one, you do not have to follow old traditions. You can choose to stay home, go out of town or do something completely different this year.
3. You have the right to decide who you spend the holidays with. Branch out and spend time with people that will make you feel comfortable even without your loved one.
4. You have the right to reminisce about the person who died. Sometimes bringing up loved ones who have died can be a sore subject, but it is your right to remember all the memories you shared with them.
5. You have the right to laugh and have fun during the holiday season without feeling guilty.
Feel free to contact the Fairview Hospice Bereavement Program at any time for additional support or call 612-728-2455.